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    The Great Gordino Newsletter - Issue 297 - Wed 2nd Mar 2005
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    Hi There,

    I hope your week is going well.
    The snow is coming down hard today, and as per usual we seem
    to be struggling to cope on the roads.

    I had a really interesting chat on Monday with someone who had
    read my book.

    She said it didn't really apply to her, because although it was all
    well and good for me to say 'if you want to do something, just
    go and do it', I'm not at home with the time and financial
    constraints of 2 small children.

    True, I'm not.
    I could up sticks and move anywhere pretty much straight away
    is I felt I needed to, and all my money goes on just the one
    person - me.

    My answer to this opinion has lots of parts.
    Firstly, I *chose* not to be at home with children.
    Secondly, the book is about creating contentment, either from
    achievement, or acceptance, and sometines we need to accept
    that certain goals are not within our reach.
    Thirdly, and particularly with the advance of the internet, the
    opportunites are opening up in front of us, so there may be new
    ways to achieve whatever your goal is, that didn't exist as little
    as 6 months ago.
    Things really can change that quickly, and it's vital to make sure
    you have exhausted every avenue open to you before you say 'I
    can't do it.'

    After I'd made these points, she still wasn't sure that I had said
    all that in the book, and she would read it again.

    It's an important point - just because I undertsand the
    principles, and think I have conveyed them well, it doesn't mean
    that everyone will understand them.

    It's one of the reasons I enjoy writing this newsletter, because it
    allows me to make the same points over and over, to repeatedly
    put across the same principles, but from different angles, via
    different stories.

    If someone doesn't understand what you say the first time,
    don't get annoyed, don't get angry, just say it again in a
    different way.
    People are not obliged to listen to us, and if the communication
    isn't working, maybe it's up to *us* to try a different approach.

    The other side of this coin is that maybe people are trying to tell
    us things, and we are misinterpreting what they say, so again, if
    you think someone has said or done something to deliberately
    upset you, try and see it from their viewpoint, and you might see
    things in a different light.

    Ok, that's it for today, and here's a thought - do you really say
    what you mean?

    'Til Friday,
    Health and Happiness,
    Gordon
    email me at gordon@gordonbryan.com - you'll have to copy and paste
    thanks to the idiot online spammers!



    
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